Managing Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1

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by Vin DiCarlo

Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.

Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

That’s so untrue!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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July 17th, 2008 - Posted in Blogs | |